Men are like a foreign language to women sometimes. When you are just beginning to date, you find yourself wondering how on earth you can begin to understand men and what they want. You sometimes feel so far removed from them that dating seems impossible. First of all, men are much more than football and beer. They have wants, needs and desires too, they just have a much easier time hiding them from you. Men are not as emotionally available as women. And although most men do wish to connect with a woman on all emotional levels, they have an easier time denying that capability until they feel completely comfortable with the right woman. It is not something you can force, but it is something you can gently persuade with an easy going attitude.
If there is one man in particular that you want to get to know better, you can not try and force him to open up. Initially, what a man wants in his lover is a best friend. He wants someone who is non-judgmental, who he feels like he could tell anything to. Be this person. Be as emotionally distant with him until he feels comfortable around you. Be a best friend to him for a while. When he begins to open up emotionally, don't push it, don't push any issue which he brings up. Be open and understanding and smile as well. Let him talk about things at his own pace. This is not a queue for you to unleash all of your emotional feelings on him in one catastrophic blow. No, no, no. Hold back yourself and let him make all the moves for a while. Just by doing something as simple as this, you are going to create trust, and trust is what leads to being open with each other.
If you want to understand men a little more, you could always read Men are from Mars, and Women are from Venus, but this material is a little dated. We would suggest downloading the manual Men Made Easy which is a great guide helping you to understand the hearts of men and what makes you more attractive to them. Not only does it help you to understand what men want from women, but it will give you a step by step guide teaching you how to act and react making you the most desirable woman for him. That is what makes this book a great little number. And it is also downloadable so you can get it online without having to be embarrassed at the book store. I've done that one before. AdviceDiva.Com highly recommends this book for all women.
Many people assume that a guy wants to find and marry a woman like mom. You know what? That is closer to the truth than you think. A man wants unconditional love, like the love he gets from his mother. He wants to feel assured that even if he goofs up royally, you are still going to be there for him and love him instead of giving him heaps and heaps of grief for his transgression. He also wants to find someone who will take care of him in ways his mom used to. He doesn't have to a Mommy's Boy to want that. He wants to find someone who will help keep him in check while he takes care of you too and while he still remains the man of the house. Hey, some things never change.
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