Dear Diva Rebecca,

I have been like in love with this guy for about 3 months, we are like best friends and he knows I like him. I never did anything because I figured he knew I liked him. If he wanted something more all he would have to do is say something. It turns out my best friend likes him too and she asked him out. He said yes but reluctantly. I don't know what to do. I'm not mad at her because I don't see the point but I am hurting badly.

Sincerely,

Silently In Love
Longview, Texas

Dear Silently in Love,

Did your best friend know that you were in in love with this guy? If so, she is not your friend. But if she did not know, you are right not to be angry with her. She made the first move and got the goods.

You should always cherish your friendships. Your best friends could be the relationships that last lifetimes. So for now I would not do anything to get in their way. Just let the relationship take its course and see what happens. But in case they break up and you want to date him, you should let her know now that you had feelings for this guy and you were a little upset that she asked him out. Tell her this in a calm and rational way and also let her know that you are not angry with her. That way she can not be upset if you guys start dating if they don't work out.

Next time you should make your move if you like a guy. He might be just as shy as you so you can not just sit there and play the part of the wallflower waiting for him to make his move. And you should never just assume that he knows you like him. Make moves and flirt. Invite him out for casual lunches and maybe even happy hour. If he does not reciprocate after that, then he just might not be that into you and you should drop it. Move on to the next guy.

Sincerely,

Diva Rebecca