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Dear Diva Rebecca,

I have been like in love with this guy for about 3 months, we are like best friends and he knows I like him. I never did anything because I figured he knew I liked him. If he wanted something more all he would have to do is say something. It turns out my best friend likes him too and she asked him out. He said yes but reluctantly. I don't know what to do. I'm not mad at her because I don't see the point but I am hurting badly.

Sincerely,

Silently In Love
Longview, Texas

Dear Silently in Love,

Did your best friend know that you were in in love with this guy? If so, she is not your friend. But if she did not know, you are right not to be angry with her. She made the first move and got the goods.

You should always cherish your friendships. Your best friends could be the relationships that last lifetimes. So for now I would not do anything to get in their way. Just let the relationship take its course and see what happens. But in case they break up and you want to date him, you should let her know now that you had feelings for this guy and you were a little upset that she asked him out. Tell her this in a calm and rational way and also let her know that you are not angry with her. That way she can not be upset if you guys start dating if they don't work out.

Next time you should make your move if you like a guy. He might be just as shy as you so you can not just sit there and play the part of the wallflower waiting for him to make his move. And you should never just assume that he knows you like him. Make moves and flirt. Invite him out for casual lunches and maybe even happy hour. If he does not reciprocate after that, then he just might not be that into you and you should drop it. Move on to the next guy.

Sincerely,

Diva Rebecca

Not everyone will agree with me, everyone has their own opinion.
What would your advice be?
Be respectful and courteous. Rude remarks and slander of any kind will be removed.

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L0vE.0N,A.1.WAy.STREET
16 Sep 2008, 00:54

DEAR DIVA REBECCA,
I HAVE THIS BESTFRIEND AND HE MEANS THE WORLD TO ME. I WOULDNT TRADE HIS FRIENDSHIP FOR NOTHING IN THE WORLD. HES THE TYPE OF FRIEND THAT NO MATTER WHATS GOIN ON OR WHAT TIME OF DAY IT IS HE WILL STOP AND TALK TO ME AND HELP ME WITH WHATEVER IM GOING THROUGH. ITS NO SECRET THAT WE BOTH HAVE FEELINGS FOR EACHOTHER BECAUSE WEVE SHARED THIS BEFORE ITS JUST THAT I THINK MY FEELINGS ARE A LITTLE STRRONGER. I MEAN THERES NOT A DAY THAT GOES BY THAT I DONT THINK OF HIM. I MEAN I COULD BE IN THE WORST MOOD EVER AND IF I HEAR HIS NAME THINK OF SOMETHINH HE DID OR SEE SOMETHING THAT REMINDS ME OF HIM I GET THIS WARM FEELING AND A SMILE THATSS HARD TO SHAKE AND ALL OF A SUDDEN ALL MY PROBLEMS ARE GONE. WE HAVE SSHARED AN INTIMATE MOMENT AND EVERYSINCE THEN ITS LIKE HES ALL I EVER THINK ABOUT. I BROKE UP WITH MY BOYFRIEND A FEW MONTHS AGO AND HE BROKE UP WITH HIS GIRLFRIEND A FEW WEEKS AGO. WE BOTH HAVE BEEN IN AND OUT RELATIONSHIPS WITH OUR PARTNERS BUT NEVER SINGLE AT THE SAMETIME. NOW THAT WERE BOTH SINGLE WHAT DO YOU THINK I SHOULD DO?
SINCERLEY L0vE.0N,A.1.WAy.STREET
WESTCOAST,CALIFORNIA

Mrs.alee
22 Aug 2008, 17:12

dear mrs.advice diva;
im in love with this boy we started just like friends since 1st of secundary but now when we were going to finish 2nd i wanted to make him fall in love with me i wanted a summer love so i started flirting alot and he told me he liked me on messenger -.-!
and i was so happy !that i realized i like him to but i was so nervous at the moment that i changed the topic so we never talked that again and then my bestfriend told me he liked another girl so i was really sad but i just thinked he was gonna be mine all the summer we didnt do alot of flirt but was ok; now that we started school
i want him to fall over me but this time with real feelings and i wish he could say to my face but he sometimes dont even say hi to me i feel so bad and i really want him as something else!! but i dont know how to make him fall please help me!!

Just Friends
12 Jul 2008, 19:29

i started to like this guy and then we became best friends i thought i was over my crush but im not i went on vacation and missed him like crazy i told him that i liked and he just said ok and started talking about camp he just wants to be friends id rather have him as a friend then as nothing
wat should i do to make him talk to me?
just friends

am i inlove?
10 Jul 2008, 01:02

dear ms. advice diva,

Lisa
27 Feb 2008, 16:34

I agree that while your best friend is dating the guy, you should not get in the way. If things don?t work out between them, you should definitely tell the guy clearly how you feel. Even though you may think he knows you like him, you?d be surprised how clueless people can be. I actually was the clueless one in my relationship! I had a great male friend in college, and when I moved to another state to work, he stayed in touch by e-mailing and calling. Whenever I came back to visit, we would often go out and he would even give me gifts. I did not pick up on these hints and looked upon all this as the actions of a friend ? even the gifts were given for a reason (my graduation, birthday, etc). About 12 years later, we are now living in the same area and when we got together again recently, I began realizing I really liked him. At this point, I suspected he may have liked me all along, but I was initially hesitant to say anything in case he really did only think of me as a friend. Finally one night when we were going out for dinner, I told him that I liked him and that I was interested in dating. To my pleasant surprise, he told me he had always liked me and had been too shy to say anything. We are so happy now!

advice
02 Feb 2008, 21:41

This guy probably really likes you. I have been with a guy that is jealous like that and it was a little annoying, but it also feels good to e wanted. If you like this guy, let him know how you feel very discretely. I know all this from experience

Very Confused
30 Jan 2008, 22:58

I have one boy who likes me but sticks up for me like a brother but has really strong feelings for me. also other guys who like me. but he doesn't want them anywhere near me. is it possessiveness or really strong feeling like love?

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