Dear Diva Rebecca,

I started to work for a small company late last year. The girl was training me for my position became my close friend. My supervisor was so nice to me making sure I was okay and asking how the was job going. Three weeks into the job my supervisor and I became really close. We made each other laugh. One day when I was leaving for the weekend my supervisor walked me to my car and asked me to call him. I called him we hung out at a hotel. We talked and kissed and that's it. The next day I went to work and told my good friend at work about what happened. She went around and told every one we are having an affair. My supervisor did not speak to me for a month. It's been 5 months now and we only talk about business. Meanwhile my friend flirts with him all the time. I want him back but every time I try to tell him I miss him I can't get the words right. My supervisor is married. Although he said he never did anything like this before, he flirts with all the girls in front of me. And now I get nothing.

Sincerely,

Working Girl,
Baton Rouge, Louisiana

Dear Working Girl,

Change jobs. This guy is the typical martini drinking business manager who loves to slap asses and chase the girls around the office. He uses his power in the office to get what he wants....sex a la carte. He probably does all the hiring too. Take a look around your office. Are most of the employees of the young and hot female variety? I would assume so. All this guy wants to do is screw around with the hired help with no strings attached. Men in power easily influence their younger female subjects because the sense of power can be intoxicating and alluring. Women easily fall victim to the sex appeal of a man in control. He is the alpha male. He is the one that draws your attention. But this jerk is using his position to take advantage of you and all the other girls.

Now, I am not one to judge about the guy you pick as your lover. I too fell victim to an office romance or two. I also fell hard for a boss. Ahh, sweet memories. The private meetings, sex on the board room table.....you name it. It was fabulous! Fortunately, I never pick a guy I think is going to use me. My boss was a gracious, sweet, loving and sincere gentlemen. And he was single and available. It was definitely his power and the fact that he was my boss which attracted me to him. It was such a powerful attraction. For a month or two all I could think about was him. I couldn't focus on the job, I couldn't work. I even broke down a couple of times and confessed my strong desires and lust to a few of his friends asking what to do. It was the strongest desire for a man I had ever experienced. It was the "boss" thing. Inevitably, it happened. I flirted and one thing led to another. It did not last but I never regretted it. It was a wonderful experience.

Your boss is married and he has no respect for you. As soon as someone found out, he freaked out and stopped talking to you. He doesn't want to get caught, ever. He only wants to screw around completely free of charge. And now he flirts with other women in front of you. Girl, you have got to open your eyes and see the truth. He will NEVER have a relationship with you and he will NEVER respect you. Start looking for another job and when you have one put in your resignation. Make sure you get a great letter of recommendation from this slimeball boss of yours. You don't want to continue working with this freak.

And do you actually think he has never done this before? You are young and naive. He probably has a new "private" assistant each week. If he had truly never done this before, would he have met you out at a hotel? The concierge probably knows him by name.

Sincerely,

Diva Rebecca