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18 Can't-fail Clues That a Guy is Interested
• He'll serve you an eyebrow flash. When we first see someone we're attracted to, our eyebrows rise and fall.
If they like us back, they raise their eyebrows. The whole thing lasts about a fifth of a second and it happens
everywhere in the world --to everyone regardless of age, race, or class. Lifting our brows pulls the eyes open
and allows more light to reflect off the surface, making them look bright, large and inviting. A flash might be
easy to miss but they're so reliable, if you do spot one, you may know someone likes you before they've even
registered it themselves. Deliberately extend it for up to one second and you've drastically upped the chances of
him getting the message you're interested.
• His lips part. If he likes what he sees, his lips will automatically part for a moment when your eyes first lock.
• His nostrils flare and his face generally "opens". The raised brows, parted lips, flaring nostrils and wide
eyes give the whole face a friendly "open" expression.
• He'll try to attract your attention. For some men, this might mean a subtle tie adjustment along with a
silent prayer that you'll notice the flash of movement. Others turn into Bippo the Clown and become so loud and
boisterous, they're practically juggling and doing handstands. Any exaggerated movement or gesture usually
means he's trying to stand out from the group. Another giveaway: he'll unconsciously detach from his friends by
standing slightly apart, hoping to be seen as an individual.
• He'll stroke his tie or smooth a lapel. We all know what these preening gestures mean. They're the
equivalent of the female lip lick -- "I want to look good for you."
• He'll smooth or mess up his hair. Which gestures he chooses depends on his hairstyle and what's going to
make it look more flattering. Guys do this involuntarily and more often than you think. Glance back next time
you trot off to the restroom and I bet his hands will be on their way to touching his hair.
• His eyebrows remain slightly raised while you're talking. A slightly surprised, quizzical expression means
he finds you fascinating. Or completely nuts. Quite frankly, either are preferable to a man who looks at you with
a smooth, relaxed brow and eyes. That one simply finds you boring.
• He'll fiddle with his socks and pull them up. In the old days, men only dressed up on special occasions, and
while the suit might have survived months in mothballs, the socks invariably continued to get worn (to death).
Hence, why he spent half the night pulling them up, in an attempt to look the part. It's an extension of preening
and it's astonishingly accurate. If a guy pulls up or adjusts his socks in your presence, it's an almost 100 percent
sign he's interested and trying to look his best.
• Everything is erect. Ahem. What I mean is he'll stand with all his muscles pulled tight, to show his body off
to best advantage. He'll also stand directly in front of you to show full attention and lean forward to get closer.
• He'll let you see him checking out your body. Some experts call it "visual voyaging" -- his eyes take a little
cruise around your body, stopping momentarily at the prettiest ports. Don't kid yourself: he scanned your body
automatically the second he laid eyes on you. The difference here is that he's letting you see him do it. The
message: I'm considering you as a sexual partner.
• He'll spread his legs while sitting opposite, to give you a crotch display. He's letting you have a good look
at what's on offer. Hopefully, he still has his jeans or pants on at the time.
• He'll stand with hands on hips. This accentuates his physical size and suggests body confidence. It's also a
pointing gesture. We point with our hands at our own best sexual assets and also at the parts of our body where
we'd most like to be touched. If he spends the night with his hands on his hips, fingers splayed and pointing
downward, he's willing you to look, touch and admire the part he's proudest of. All subconscious, of course.
Well, it is in most cases...
• He'll play with the buttons on his jacket, buttoning and unbuttoning it. It's a displacement activity
(fiddling) because you've made him a little nervous, plus an unconscious desire to remove his clothes. The next
stage is to push the jacket open and hold it there by putting his hands on his hips. If he takes it off completely,
he's imagining his shoes under your bed.
• He'll touch his face a lot, while looking at you. If he's interested, he'll stroke his cheek up and down with
the back of his fingers, touch his ears, or rub his chin. It's a combination of nervous excitement, preening and
autoerotic touching. When we're attracted to someone, our skin (most noticeably our lips and mouth) become
increasingly sensitive to touch and other stimulation. If you smoke, you'll take more drags on your cigarette. If
you're drinking, you'll take more sips. You start touching your own mouth more because your lips are ultra
sensitive and it feels good. Plus, it plants the idea in the other person's mind that it could be a good idea to kiss
• He'll start squeezing his glass or can or roll it from side to side, slightly squeezing it as he does so. When
men are sexually interested, they start playing with circular objects. Why? They remind him of your breasts: his
body is "leaking" what's happening in his subconscious mind.
• He'll perch on the edge of his seat to get closer. And if he crosses his legs, the top leg will point in your
• He'll guide you by putting his arm on your elbow or in the small of your back. The arm guide isn't just
good manners and a polite way of guiding you through a crowd; he's making sure he knows exactly where
you're going by taking you there. He doesn't want to lose you! It also shows you're being "taken care of" so no
other men need volunteer. Along with the arm guide, there'll be lots of accidentally-on-purpose touches.
• He'll lend you his coat or sweater. Few guys would be happy to return from the bar to find their girlfriend's
evening dress covered by another guy's jacket. Never mind if her teeth were chattering from life-threatening
hypothermia. He wants it to be his jacket because it's a protective, sexy, ownership gesture. It says "what's mine
is yours," something that's been close to their skin is now close to yours (and vice versa when you give it back).
It smelled of him to begin with; it'll smell of you when you return it. Plus, it links you: he has to hang around to
get it back.