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High School Relationships
by Diva Rebecca

Love and dating is a very confusing time in high school. All of the sudden you have a boyfriend or girlfriend and you think it is going to last forever. Suddenly one of you wants to date other people and the other is faced with rejection for the first time ever.

If you are in high school and are dealing with a troublesome relationship, you really need to realize how young you are. Relationships beginning in high school rarely last. I highly doubt you will end up marrying each other. Although it happens, it does not happen that often.

I am constantly receiving emails from high school students professing their undying love to another and telling me that this was the absolute love of their lives. NONSENSE. You are not old enough to know what love is. And you are not old enough to be in a committed relationship. At your age you should be dating as many people as you want and discovering who you are and what you like in a dating partner. You should also be focusing on college and what will be happening in your life after high school. Getting married and having kids right out of high school should not be on your agenda. You are still a child yourself and you will only end up ruining what could be a successful future.

If you are dating someone and that person ended it with you to date someone else, this is normal. It is not because you did anything wrong and it is not because he or she is a bad person. It is just because not many guys or girls want to be tied down in a relationship at that age! They want to have fun and date and there is nothing wrong with this.

The hurt that you may feel now is also normal. You are not used to feeling this sort of rejection from someone you thought cared about you. And trust me, it won't be the last. But how you deal with it now will help you deal with it in the future. Get over it and start dating other people yourself. There is no need to cry your eyes out every night because there will be someone else very soon. You just need to keep your eyes open.

If you are considering getting married fresh out of high school or stopping your life completely just to be with someone, forget it. The most important person in your life should be you. This is a tender age. You are at the very beginning of defining your life and you future accomplishments. Do what is best for you: college, the armed forces, specialty schools, whatever you need to do. Don't let a fleeting love interest change your life.

I am sure there will be a few people out there who may disagree with me when I say that marriage and children directly out of high school is a very poor idea. The reason why I say this is because a high school student is not yet mature enough for this kind of committed relationship. You will also be missing out on a very important time of your life. You will miss out on college and dating in your early twenties. While you are at home, struggling to make ends meet or still living with your parents and taking care of children, your friends will be living the life you should have had. They will be graduating from college, getting good jobs, becoming financially secure and having lots of fun. They will have also experienced more time in dating and become more mature in the relationship arena. This is where you need to be. No one should contemplate a committed and serious relationship until you are at least 25.